I can get back to alpha. We've had in the office before, at different points an alpha male and an alpha female. The alpha male guy didn't like spicy food of any sort, actually pretty much only bland food would do. So we always went where he wanted to eat. When he left I had to point out to people that we didn't have to go to those places any more, we could go anywhere anyone wanted. He also left behind a load of meaningless bullshit bingo phrases of his own invention, and I had to tell people, guys, you do know that no-one outside of this small section of cubicles has any idea of what the phrases you are using mean.
The alpha female was not actually a boss she was pretty junior, but nonetheless she seemed to control office life. Again when she left I had to point out, lookit guys, we only used to go to those places because the alpha female liked them, she doesn't actually work here any more!
The weird thing is people without Aspergers often don't seem to get when they're being controlled.